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What is good hair?

It’s never JUST about your hair, ya know.
Back in the day, especially in the South, my people – Black people – actually judged the “goodness” of skin color by whether you were lighter or darker than a brown paper bag. If you were lighter, you were fair skinned and pretty. If you were darker, you were black and ugly.

Look, don’t judge me.  I’m just telling you what it was. Where I grew up in Port Arthur, TX there were all kinds of ways to isolate different groups of Black people, to keep them from pooling their spiritual, intellectual and financial resources to uplift their race. But that was a long time ago, right? Why keep talking about that stuff?

Now adays there are not enough paper bags in circulation so that particular test isn’t really practical, so we’ve got to fixate on something else, right? And why not hair? It’s right on the very top of your head. And it’s different for everyone. So, why not define beauty by hair texture?

Little black girls are now coming to the conclusion that their hair is not pretty because they don’t have GOOD HAIR. They have been taught by the media, other kids, and sometimes their parents (in additional to everyone else) that because their hair is kinky, it’s not good.

Uuugh, this whole definition of good hair is making me Crazy! [Yes. I had to use a capital C. This  is SO serious.]

When I was a little girl, my hair was EXTRA kinky. Ooooh, I loved it! It made me look tall and tough and different from all the girls who’s mommas permed their hair. Oooooh, it was SO cool the way it encircled my face. I looked like a lion cub with a full mane.

I’m not going to reminisce too much. I promise. I’ve already documented my memories of how much I loved my natural hair before my momma decided to make it more manageable and “pretty.” If you missed it, here’s a link where I go into detail. It’ll probably bring back some memories for you, too.

My point in this whole thing is we have to STOP taking part in this madness wherein we cover up our beautiful kinky locks with Asian-derived weave and sport that every day. We have to stop being afraid to go out the door until we’ve straightened our hair. We have to stop posting a million pictures of pretty mixed chicks and idolizing their locks. We have to fall in love with our natural selves.

naturalbeautifulIdolize your own hair!!

Dark Skin is Beautiful!

Kinky Hair is SO Gorgeous!

Full Lips are Sexy!

Have you not checked out all these celebrities paying to get lips like yours??!!

So, your hair doesn’t naturally lay down. OK. So, you have to tug at your locks in order to measure hair growth. OK. So, you have 4a, b, c, k-l-m-n-o-p type  hair. So what? Who cares?

God has never made a mistake. Not a single one!!! Ever!

So give up on the notion that your beautiful hair that is growing on your beautiful head is not GOOD. Sister, keep your hair cleaned, moisturized, and loved and it will be good. I promise you. . whether you get a compliment or not. IT. IS. GOOD!!! It is beautiful.

But if you need a test to determine if your hair is good, please answer these 3 questions.

If all of your replies are Yes, then you indeed have good hair. Congratulations!

And please sisters. Please brothers. Please please please. If you’re going to post pics, mix in some variety. Hell, post your beautiful pics! I do. I OVER share my natural hair pics and I know my hair is the kinkiest of them all. But I love it. Because it is mine. I wear my natural hair. My good hair. And it’s SO gorgeous.

Yes. This is me patting myself on the back for wearing the hair God gave me and loving it and loving myself.. and loving you, too!

If I haven’t said it enough to be clear, here I go one more time.

You have good hair.

You just have to take off the blinders so you can see it. And who gives two shits about whether the rest of the world recognizes your good hair?

Caring for Coarse Natural Hair

When I was young, the only females that wore their natural hair were either White, Asian, Mexican, mixed, had Indian in their family, or somehow just lucked up with fine, silky, wavy hair. That wasn’t me, and that ain’t me now.

If you’re not sure about whether you have coarse natural  hair, CLICK ON THIS PIC to see everyone’s favorite natural hair chart.

I have coarse natural hair. And if you do, too, then you know that coarse hair requires it’s own special regimen and styles. If you’re not sure about whether or not you have coarse natural hair, see the cropped section of the natural hair chart. And here’s a link to the full natural hair chart. . that I don’t personally use (ha!)

No.  I’m not talking about the regimen my Momma taught me. “Keep your scalp and hair greased, so your hair doesn’t break out. ” And “keep your hair dirty because dirty hair grows faster.”

Momma did what Momma knew. But I’ve spent my adult life getting to know my hair. Now that I know better, I do better. And one of he things I’ve learned about my coarse natural hair is that IT DOES NOT NEED HAIR GREASE. . ever. Neither does my scalp. Please hear me black women. This is a game changer for black women with coarse natural hair.

Never use “grease” in your hair or scalp. Petroleum – the main ingredient in hair grease – makes hair stiff, dry and greasy.

Your hair needs natural oils. Your hair does NOT need hair grease. Try to avoid products with mineral oils and petrolatum. They will dry your hair out and stop moisture from penetrating the hair shaft.  Natural oils like almond oil, coconut oil, olive oil and jojoba oils are much better because they help your hair seal in moisture, yet they are still light enough to allow your hair and scalp to breathe.

And your hair needs a lot of moisture. But don’t shampoo your hair every day. Shampooing your hair strips away the oils. Reserve shampoo for when your hair is filled with dirt and sweat. But you can co-wash it regularly and spritz it with water when it dries out. Use a leave-in conditioner to add manageability and shine.

There are also hair styles that work best for coarse natural hair as well.

If you have shorter hair, try tapered cuts (long at the top and shorter on the sides and in the back). For longer hair, try bangs. They break up the weight of your hair around your face and reveal dimension in your hairstyle.

Just know that coarse natural hair, just like all natural hair is beautiful. YOU are beautiful. You with your coarse hair and beautiful spirit. . Just enjoy this natural hair journey. It’s yet another path to get to know more about YOU.

Love you, Queen!